Thursday, January 20, 2011

Newborn Workshops!

In December I was approached by an old classmate about the possibility of teaching a photography class for her and a friend. They both have DSLRs and are at varying stages of getting into the business. I was THRILLED to do it.

We met for two different two hour classes. In keeping with my casual personality it was basically just one big gab fest where they threw questions at me and I answered them. The tangents were great and I think the unstructured-ness of it all worked very well for all of us (at least I hope they felt the same!).

This really got me thinking about doing more of this type of thing. I know THREE people having babies between the end of February and the end of March. I asked them if I could "use" their babies while I teach a workshop. They were all very willing to help so I introduce to you my very first set of Newborn Workshops!

5 of 15 spots are already spoken for and I am really hopeful to fill all 15 spots. If you are not interested or not in the area passing the word on is MUCH appreciated!

I am so excited about this and think it's going to be so much fun!!

newborn workshop

I should also add that dates ARE subject to change. Those babies can be unpredictable.

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep | First session

I'm so sad to say that I have my first volunteer end of life session tomorrow.

If you're not familiar with this organization see my original post here.

I wanted to talk about it before the session just so I can remember where my head was because I'm sure 24 hours from now I won't even be able to remember.
At the moment I'm feeling stoic. I would think I would be crying but I'm just trying not to think of it. I'm focusing on the logistics like what time I need to be there, who's going to watch my kids, are my batteries charged, where am I going to park, etc.
I know I have to stay focused on my job once I get there so I don't make any mistakes or regret missing something because I was too emotional.
I definitely won't be sharing the images on my blog for a few obvious reasons, but I do want to document the sessions verbally as they will likely emotionally effect my life forever and play a large part in who I am as a photographer.
I'm sitting here tonight with my family as we deal with the trivial thing that are necessary to get us through our day while thinking of this other family who is preparing to say goodbye to their newborn son forever. I am unbelievably grateful for my healthy almost 4 year old twins especially because of the fact that I went into pre-term labor at 29 weeks and was prepared by the doctors for the worst.
I know nothing I say or do will ever help this family get their son back but I hope that the images I capture will one day bring them comfort.

I will update this post after I get home tomorrow.


Updating when i got home was absolutely not an option. It took all I had just to drive home from Boston, pick my kids up, get them home and in bed. I literally couldn't see out of my eyes properly from crying so hard and long. It's been over 24 hours now and my eye lids are still swollen.

I arrived at the hospital at 11:45 am. I met the social worker first thing and she brought me into the NICU room where the baby was surrounded by so many family members. They were about to give him a bath and get him dressed in his baptism outfit. I didn't talk to anybody and definitely felt weird taking pictures. I had to keep reminding myself that they requested my services so I had no need to feel out of place. There were some tears from the family as they dressed him but also some smiles. He was so cute it was hard to keep a smile from your face. The mother was talking to her son as she stroked his head and hands. She was saying "mommy loves you so much". I couldn't hold back the tears when she said that because I say those EXACT words to my babies every single day. I felt so guilty.

The Priest arrived and after some encouraging words about the baby being needed in heaven he began the baptism.

When that was over the family wanted to take some time with him before they removed the ventilator. At that point I had been in the room for over an hour and needed a break. It was a good time for me to go get something to eat. I waited for two hours or so until the social worker came to get me saying that they were ready. I believe that was around 3 pm.

I went back in the room and was hit with the horrible cries of the family, especially the mother.
She was saying "I can't do it!" (meaning remove the ventilator) while the family held her and encouraged her that she was doing the right thing and that everything was going to be ok. It took all I had to not sob out loud. I will never forget it.

The chaplain said a prayer with the family as the nurses removed the tube. As soon as it was out the mother picked him right up and kissed his sweet face that was now free of tubes and tape.

Mom held him for a while, then Dad, then each of the family members got a turn. There were around 10 adults and 3 children there, all immediate relatives. It was amazing to see the support this couple had.

I photographed each of the family members holding him. I stayed for a while getting some amazing photos of him including one with his eyes wide open! Then I left again for another break. This time I was really feeling like I had hit a wall. All I wanted to do was fall asleep.

I stayed in the waiting room for maybe 30 minutes then went back in. The nurse had been periodically checking the baby's pulse. It was so sad because every time we knew it was possible for her to say he was gone. At 5:50 pm she checked, obviously didn't find anything and after using a stethoscope, she called in another nurse. This nurse gave the sad news that he had passed on. Once again I had to seriously control my crying. It was more than heartbreaking to see a mother in so much pain. She told him she was sorry.

After about a half an hour they put him down on his little bed. He was all bundled up in a blanket so I felt really bad asking if they wanted me to photograph his little feet maybe with their rings etc. They said yes immediately. I went to my camera bag to change my lens and by the time I turned around his feet were already removed and he had a ring on each foot and one on his hand! We all had a little chuckle. I only took 5 photos after had had passed away. I do regret now that I didn't try to pose him all curled up with no clothes on, but I just didn't have the heart to ask them to take his clothes off. I'm pretty sure they wouldn't have minded but it all happened so quickly and I was trying so hard to be unobtrusive.

After that I packed up and left. It was 7 pm.

I cried in the elevator down and on my way out of the hospital. I called my mother to tell her all about it and we both just bawled on the phone. I hugged my kids quite a bit tighter when I picked them up that night.

I was able to look at the pictures today and I have to say they are amazing. The lighting in the room was far less than ideal. No window and only one florescent overhead light. I normally don't raise my ISO over 100 to avoid any noise in my images, but I had to suck it up and put on 800, had my 50mm on 2.0 f/stop and with that I was able to keep the shutter speed around 200. I wanted to avoid using my flash at all cost! My new 7D is supposed to handle higher ISO better and it is definitely true. I was incredibly pleased with the reduced noise in the images. They are very clear and because I didn't use any flash they are so real and natural looking. It was hard to miss capturing any emotion in the room since it was filled with emotion. The photos just ooze emotion. Even though they are very sad I absolutely love them and think the family will too.

The photos are in a password protected proofing site. If anyone is interested and brave enough to look I'd be glad to share the login info.

I don't know if anyone is reading this but it has helped to get it all out of my head!